June has been an interesting month in dating. The First, while not really a date (there’s a developing pattern here *wink*), it was a lovely dinner with Cancer #6 and finally getting to meet her partner (a Libra and we sat chatting the night away as two Libras would)! I…

The signs on either side of your own are ‘adjacent’. I once read that they’re like your neighbors: Just enough in common that you don’t mind living next to them, but you’re happier when there is a fence dividing the properties. The sign after your own is your ‘astrological teacher’…

I’m Panic!(ing) at the Disco again. The conventional wisdom about the song, House of Memories, is that it’s a melancholy memory of a past lover who somehow did Brendan Urie wrong. However, like all art, it’s open to interpretation. For me, this song hits in a different way. I’ve…

It’s where your spark is generated If there was one mental/emotional health practice I could build in others, it would be this: Move yourself forward regardless of your emotions. There are several truths I learned at Bible school that weren’t Bible verses. I learned them because they were said, in conjunction with a Biblical teaching, at…

Compartmentalization isn’t all bad. In fact, it’s a necessary skill in polyamory The boyfriend and I did a podcast episode about Open and Honest Communication in Polyamory. When it comes to secure attachment partners, the unhealthy kind of compartmentalization is secrecy. You can’t hide your experience with other partners from your secure attachment partners because that breeds distrust and fuels insecurity in…

An experiment in respecting my partner’s limits and our time together — I have two secure attachment partners. With one, an ongoing, free flowing discussion of our experience with other partner’s/lovers rarely causes any emotional hiccups between us. With the other it often does. As I’ve been actively back out on the field of dating, with the partner who struggles, I began…

Striving for your fulfillment and potential is what life is all about Why do people need autonomy and freedom? Because you know what you want to do with who you are and the same is true for me. “They had so much potential, it’s too bad they didn’t reach it.” Sometimes that statement is true. Often, it’s just judgment. I used to…

The boyfriend sent me the pic above and asked if he could be considered Polyamorous (June 11th’s flag) since I’m the only one he’s seeing and in love with. It was a good question, but it’s not one I can answer for him. All I could answer was that I…

If you cage a free spirit, you kill it A free-spirited person is attractive for some. “Hey, you, what do you see? Something beautiful or something free?” ~Marilyn Manson, Beautiful People An odd sort of thing happens when one spends all their time in a collective. Group dynamics, ethics, and behaviors accumulate so that an individual’s fire gets extinguished…