I told the owner of my home-away-from-home the truth a lot, because I wanted to help her with her business. I told her truths like: “Every time you send down what you want done, it doesn’t get done and here’s why: We, the waitresses, know we don’t have to do it…

Sunday night I lost my shit, rather publicly. I really hate having that side of me be seen by anyone, let alone ‘everyone’. I kind of feel like crawling in a hole. After losing my shit, a friend reached out. He knew I needed to say the things to someone…

I’m out. There are a number of things that contributed and a straw that broke the camel’s back. Whatever happens with the straw doesn’t matter. I’m glad it broke my back because the rest of what led up to the break was too big a burden to continue carrying out…

After writing, Attunement: The Seat of My Resentment, I wanted to write about boundaries. Boundaries aren’t concrete. They aren’t consistently true everywhere, all the time, with everyone. That’s a really important thing to understand in your partnerships. I’m going to dance around a rather abstract concept and hope to bring…

As I read through the exercise on Attunement, I felt resentment. Attuned : aware of and attentive or responsive to something Attunement is when you’re aware of but also attentive and responsive to the person you’re with. …

I’ve been pretty school-focused the past several days: Plugging away at the required reading, copying over my notes from the first module, reaching out to people who indicated they’d be willing to be practice ‘clients’ for some of the tools I’ve learned, reading through the training manual, copying and updating…

We all have our standards — this is not a self-righteous attack on having them. I have mine too. This is a reminder of what ‘standards’ fundamentally are and why we should give grace to others. “I have high standards”, can sound like confidence and strength to some. But, to…

We’re just getting back from another attempt at traveling together. First, it was a far better time than we’ve had in the past. We both agree to that. Where we diverge is in what the recognition did in us individually. For him, it gave a sense of being on the right…

A Waitress’ Tail Things are moving along in my monogamy journey, and I’ll get to writing about that again soon, but today I’m going to write about what has stolen my focus and zapped my energy for the past two weeks. Waitresses, this one’s for you. My first work, outside of the home…