A Rather Patriarchal Duality

Ideologically liberal, practically conservative

In my last post, The Ones Yelling the Loudest are Usually the Ones Who Most Need to Listen to What They’re Advocating, I wrote about this topic from a political standpoint — intellectualizing it outside of myself. Today, I want to talk about its impact on me personally and sexually.

Being exposed to the boyfriend’s culture, has been psychologically oppressive and damaging to me. And, if we’re to move forward into monogamous partnership, it’s something we have to overcome together.

“Except, I was knocked off kilter when we showed up. She looked me over and her countenance fell into a sort of disapproving disgust. “Oh”, I thought. “It’s OK to point out, appreciate, and gawk at other sexually attractive women, but they’re outside of us. We’re supposed to be dignified. I’m not supposed to be one of ‘those women’.”

I’m not supposed to be one of ‘those’ women as his partner. Except being one of those women is why we ended up together.

We were out at a brewery a few months ago. On our way out, we snagged a free copy of Maine’s, beer & weed magazine.