I probably won’t apply, but maybe you should?
Before I talk about why I’m probably not applying, I want to get the word out that there is, in the works, a reality TV show on polyamory in the US which is looking for applicants that October Films can ‘doc-follow’. I assume that means they will follow you for a period of time and document your experience/life. But we all know what assuming does so, check into it for yourself.
Why wouldn’t I want to participate in that??
If it were just me, I would in a heartbeat because I am polyamorous, have put the work into understanding the lifestyle, and care about living it well.
But it’s not just me. I have two partners, and neither is polyamorous nor wants polyamory to be their life.
The irony is that I found out about this through the boyfriend, who was sent the link from a friend who thought we should apply.
No. We shouldn’t. I should, but we shouldn’t.
Why? Because I’ve done the work. I’ve done the thinking, the processing. I’ve been self, partner, and couple aware. I’ve understood not just self and partners, but the dynamics of what my husband and I set out to know and experience five years ago — the ins and outs, the ups and downs. I’ve done the work that should make me a voice and an example.
But I have two partners who haven’t to the extent that I have, and they don’t want to do any more work toward polyamory.
My Husband of 21 years
As we look to the future: he’d like to find a partner with whom he can be monogamous. Through this journey, I found out polyamory suits me. It’s a matter of expressing my most authentic capabilities in sex, love, and partnerships. My husband has found that it doesn’t suit him. He wants to love just one person and he wants the simplicity of a monogamous life partner. That and the conflict of our faith plagues him in a way it doesn’t plague me.
While, as we’ve gone along in this journey, we have genuine compersion for each other, we continue to communicate transparently, and the love and commitment to each other that we started 21+ years ago is a foundation…