Human Design: The Channel I Resist, and Have to Continue Resisting

Don’t worry, Dear Readers, I’m not going to endlessly write about Human Design. However, it has been inspiring to me of late and it’s lent me a lot of clarity that has application in my nonmonogamy/polyamory.

In my last post, I wrote about the channel of mine that the boyfriend resists and has to or it indirectly crushes an application of listening to his authority. In this post I’m going to talk about the channel of his that I resist and have to because, if I don’t, it directly crushes my ability to listen to my authority and implement my strategy.

The boyfriend has the channel of Preservation from his Spleen to his authority, the Sacrum (and vice versa, I’m sure, as that’s the line of open communication between the two for him). The Sacrum is his authority, and his authority does hear from his Spleen.

‘His’ is in bold and italicized because what he hears from those centers and that channel are for him, not for me.

As a projector, I have an undefined Sacrum with one gate — the Gate of Caring — an innate understanding that, if care is present, life can be enjoyed better. He has that gate, and the connecting Gate of Nourishment to form the Channel of Preservation and you don’t have to be around him long to understand that is a dominate personality trait. He Preserves with his people, and he does that naturally, far better than I.

The problem? That dominance is not meant for me as, my authority is my Spleen. His sense of safety and who is worth caring for is neither, nor can it be mine if I’m to fulfill my purpose and be successful with who I’m designed to be. I’m not designed to be preserved. I’m merely designed to care about who and/or what I’m engaging as I respond to invites.

“This channel operates with Gate 50 in the spleen that is moved by its fear of responsibility. This causes it to pay attention — in the splenic now — to what it can be responsible for. If it notices anything in itself or the other that it might be responsible for, the 27 in the Sacral center provides the energy to respond to it.” From, Human Design Tools

He wants to be responsible for my safety in connecting with others, but he can’t be because my Spleen knows better for me. He wants his…