Learn the Lessons
Nonmonogamy for Dummies, Ch. 2
Since my last post, my mind has had a little room to think of creating tool kits for the skills I’d mentioned: Self-awareness, self-examination, and along that vein, how to understand your own motives as well as the ones of your partner(s).
But that’s big. It’s a wide and deep subject matter to deconstruct and there are some ways I’m limited. I feel both my competence and my incompetence so, I’m taking my time with the thoughts.
Another aftermath — something I’ve experienced a lot this year — while I pointed a finger out to the world, I was aware of the three pointing back at me. I’ve been a dummy too and I plan to be as transparent about it as I’ve been pointed outward. My own stupidity doesn’t need to be covered as, being honest about it can be as helpful, sometimes, if not more so than, sharing how I’ve been brilliant.
But today? My thoughts are tending toward saying another outward, pointed truth: If you’re someone who’s made a mess, you should at least be able to learn the lesson from your mess or be aware that you’ll just keep making more messes.
A kind of universal truth hanging over all our heads: If you don’t learn what you were supposed to from the first time you make a mistake/mess or go through a hardship is that God, the universe, whatever you want…
