The ‘Bad’ in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy

The transition between old and new can be painful

I don’t know that ‘bad’ is the right word, maybe ‘hard’ is better. The Ugly was ugly, but the ‘bad’ and the ‘good’ are two sides of the same coin and a matter of perspective and attitude.

The ‘bad’ for me and my husband was that other people’s reactions threw us into ‘drama’. Neither of us enjoy feeling tension in our relationships and both of us work at living as peacefully as we can with our valued people (#Pisces and #Libra). We both regularly feel that, when tension and disruption occur, it’s usually not something we’ve caused by being confrontational, contentious, or disagreeable about other people’s choices and views — we’re rarely the aggressors.

We both like to live our lives and are comfortable letting others live theirs. The drama we usually have to manage is when other people get cranky about and overbearing in our life choices. Neither my husband nor I are prone to yield our right to live our lives to people with bad reactions so, it then becomes our burden to hold our line while trying to be patient with our valued people. Sigh, it can be exhausting.

Non-monogamy and polyamory are uncharted territory. They are lifestyle choices that are beyond the pale of collective consciousness. We all know…