This is the origin story of the secondary partner. Having been together for almost two and a half years, there’s far more to say about this experience than can fit in this post.
To stay in the confines of this series: Capricorn and Libra are both Cardinal signs that are squared. The signs that are three away from your own are said to be your hardest match. While sexual and romantic compatibility are often defined by how the natal chart stations of the couple’s Venus and Mars line-up, I have read that your squares are the people with whom you work out your mommy or daddy issues.
This Cap has presented me with the opportunity to work through many of the emotional dynamics I share with my earth sign father, and sharing the element as his mother, I’m sure the same is true, to some extent, for him. I’ve also read that your squares are often people you either instantly dislike without cause or there is an instant, intense, and unexplainable magnetism between you.
I met the partner in the same exhibitionist group as some of my other lovers. At one point, in group discussion, I explained that I understood why people cheated, even when they loved and wanted to remain with their partners, and that I didn’t judge it. He asked if we could chat and I agreed to engage him.
He went on to tell me how he and his wife hadn’t had sex in over 5 years, that he hadn’t had sex in a year, and was looking for a last sexual partner before determining to resign himself to his situation. There was an alarm in my head about this story. While most of my other cheating lovers had stories of having to beg for sporadic sex, some having to wait longer between experiences than others, I had not run across anyone who’d been without the physical affection of their partner for that long and there was a thought that I might be playing with some fire. However, at the time, I pushed that sense aside and chose to stick to my ideological belief that his life and choices were his responsibility.
We chatted for about a week. He was attentive and there was a comforting sweetness that endeared him to me even at that stage. When there was an opportunity to meet for sex, I forewent meeting in public first, having a strong intuition, from our interactions, that I was not in danger with him.