The Good in Being Open About our Non-monogamy: Part 1 — Personal Empowerment

When the dust settles, authenticity and freedom are your reward

I know that the Ugly and Bad about being open are enough to churn some of my readers intestinal tracks inside out but, hang on!

Because I have spent my life not being afraid of other people’s reactions to the roads I want to walk, I have the learned patience and wisdom that gives me confidence in the knowledge that yes, I will face shit storms — people initially overreacting to big changes…

But the dust does eventually settle.

People simmer down and start looking to see if what I’m choosing is as bad as they initially thought. If they can’t be supportive at first, where rational conversation isn’t possible, draw your boundaries around your right to live your life and then live it as responsibly as you can. Your character will shine through. When they can’t be confident, you be confident in yourself and your choices and, eventually, they’ll see it’s not as bad as they once thought. When they start having that experience, it becomes incredibly empowering for you and strengthening in your relationship.

Bad reactions don’t have to be an end — you shouldn’t be scared of them. People change…