The Ugly in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy

I’m sorry if I’ve made being open about nonmonogamy sound like a cakewalk — it hasn’t been

I recently wrote a post titled, I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus about telling your close and loved people about your non-monogamy and/or polyamory and have previously written about Being Open About Non-monogamy with Your Children.

When communicating principle truths and values, I’m aware that I can come off like I’m preaching, as if I'm merely espousing lofty thoughts. However, if there’s passion and/or an edge of authority in my communication, it’s because I’m speaking from the wisdom of life experience.

Being open and honest with your children, family, friends, co-workers, and communities can be wonderfully freeing and bring you closer, and it can also bring a ton of headache into your life and tear you apart. I know both well.

A little about me: I’m not bound by the view that I ‘should’ maintain relationships I’m ‘supposed’ to have. I put my energy into building relationships that are authentic and peaceful wherever I can and with whomever that kind of connection is possible. ‘Should’ and ‘supposed’, be damned.

I came out to my mom first, then my sister. At first, they both thought it weird, but “live and let…