There Can Be Only One

A Sexual Libra
4 min readFeb 28, 2022

Musings from watching The Bachelor/Bachelorette

In watching, I kept thinking of Highlander: The pain of cutting the head off of love because there can be only one.

In truth, these thoughts are the result of musings over several media impressions of late. There’s a significant inner transformation happening in me.

Over three years into living non-monogamy, as I watch TV shows and listen to modern day music I see and hear the messiness and pain of monogamy.

In my post, You Already Practice Poly-love, I took an etymological look at the word polyamory and a multi-lingual look at the word love. I separated love from relationship structure and discovered that I am actually rather polyamorous. What I previously referred to as simply enjoying the connection, the vibe, I had with another — finding the beauty and meaningfulness in each of my connections — was actually me experiencing various forms of love.

I connected love with long-term, secure attachments. I made the word have only one meaning, I put love in that box. I made polyamory small. Love is no longer a dirty word that I don’t pursue (though, I’ll still be careful using the word as I’m well aware that not everyone is thinking of it the way I am).

I absolutely do pursue love, in its various forms. I just don’t pursue long-term, committed, secure attachments.



A Sexual Libra

I’m happily, nonmonogamous/polyamorous. I’m, here, writing about my sexual journey through the Zodiac and open lifestyle. Thank you for reading and enjoy!