The Moral of the Story

I’m about a month out from starting my yearlong trek into certification for becoming a sex and relationship coach. As I prepare, I’ve been thinking on my own life experiences and the wisdom gained.

Yesterday’s post was vulnerably honest. And, while a part of who our couple is, when writing and sharing it, there can be a moment of pause. “How will it be received by others?” Because some will get it, but it could make others squirm in discomfort.

It’s so odd to me that sex is such a taboo subject. Our sexuality is a major part of who we individually and collectively are whether we consciously realize it or not. I lean Jungian in terms of views on nature vs nurture, but I can see how Freud got to his views on dreams and the ‘id’, ‘ego’, and ‘superego’.

The ‘id’, or our ‘primitive’ nature:

“The id is driven by the pleasure principle, which strives for immediate gratification of all desires, wants, and needs.1 If these needs are not satisfied immediately, the result is a state of anxiety or tension. For example, an increase in hunger or thirst should produce an immediate attempt to eat or drink.”

The ‘ego’, or our real-world check for the ‘id’:

“The ego operates based on the reality principle, which strives to satisfy the id’s desires in realistic and socially appropriate ways. The…